Family. It can be a source of joy and security; a safe nest from which we fly out to take on the world. Or, it can be a spring of constant strife; a stressful, crazy place from which we long to escape. We all want to create the first version. But how do we actually create such a place amid the constant bickering and daily dramas? Here’s some help in creating the home and family life you’ve been dreaming about:
The first step toward a peaceful home is a strong, unified parental team. Parenting is not for wimps – it is hard, unrelenting work! That’s not to say it isn’t rewarding as well – but it’s HARD. You need to be on the same side! This article will provide a useful starting place for building an alliance that strengthens the whole family.
Creating a shared vision of the family helps bond members by providing common direction and goals. The goal here is to create a sense of unity – which, in turn, will help diminish conflict. By the end of these activities, you will all be on the same team, working toward the same goals.
Here’s a terrific little worksheet that will help your family create a unique set of values and rules.
Families NEED routines and structure in order to function well. Why? Because routines provide security and people NEED to feel secure. You can think of the routines of family life as the skeleton supporting everything else. Here you will find all the tools you need to get your family structure under control! While you are at it, be sure to check out the Family Ritual ideas.
Conflict is an inevitable part of every co-habitating relationship. When we live together, sometimes we fight. We don’t all agree on every decision all the time. This holds for husbands and wives, parents and children, siblings. Learn how to manage those disagreements effectively.
Until now the focus has been on resolving some of the most common causes of family disharmony. We have worked on building a foundation for peaceful home life. But we aren’t going to stop there. We want joyful homes. We want families that truly LIKE spending time together. How do we get that? We have to go beyond fixing problems.
Some terrific books to help you build the family you want: